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There’s no Trying on Everest! DO it!

35Tomorrow I turn 35. I have no big plans – just a quiet dinner with family, but still it feels like one of those “milestone” birthdays. I’ve been reflecting on the path that brought me here. I’ve mulled over all of the challenges and choices and lessons that brought me to this age, this frame of mind, these circumstances, the state of my health and of my relationships. I have looked back at years of thoughts and dreams and accomplishments and failures immortalized in ink. In journals, unsent letters sitting in boxes, tiny scraps of paper carelessly tossed into drawers. Reliving what the world looked like through the eyes of younger versions of myself is such a uniquely interesting experience. To celebrate, I thought I would share two gems I found. One is scrawled on a piece of scrap paper that seems to wind up in different boxes each time I move (apparently saved many times over from the recycling bin). The other is from a journal that documented a particularly difficult year.  I’ve read both of them many times. I find myself wondering about the moments when these thoughts spilled out of my brain, not sure exactly what prompted them at the time, but always amused that they remain relevant and empowering, no matter where I am or what I’m facing.


I have dreamed of being a writer, a dancer, a mother, an explorer, a journalist, a teacher, a scientist, a wife, an advocate, a traveler, a well person….my list goes on and on. Today, on my birthday, I dream most of being an independent person, open to new love, with the possibility of a career. They might not seem like big dreams, but from inside the walls of the pain I live with every day – they are my Everest, and I am busy collecting the tools I will need to conquer it. Life keeps on happening, and so do I.


 

TOMORROW I WILL DO BETTER. No matter how good or bad or mediocre my days are, I will always strive to do better, to be better. I will challenge myself to dig deeper; to think bigger, to be more generous, to love more openly, to be more kind. I will try harder to forgive others and to forgive myself. I will concentrate less on everyone’s faults (including my own..especially my own) and to BE MORE POSITIVE! I will SMILE more and LAUGH more and DO more to create happiness. I will focus on the good around me and in me. I will endeavor to learn more and cultivate new skills, new friendships and new hobbies. I will be more productive. I will have more fun. I will be a better friend, daughter, sister, self…

Nothing in this world ever changes if we focus on besting one another. We must challenge ourselves. Progress comes when we commit not just to TRY, but each and every day to DO better than we did the day before. So today, and every day, I promise that TOMORROW I WILL DO BETTER!!!

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We’re never really grown-ups.

When I was 4-years old I told my mother that I did not want to have any more birthdays. I wanted to stay 4 forever. (smart kid eh?) My mom told me she wished I could stay 4 forever too. I don’t know if I was just having a lot of fun, or if I had somehow picked up on the fact that life for grownups seemed a lot harder than anything I was interested in. Either way – something in me was telling me that where I was in that moment was a pretty darn nice place to be. I often think about that day and that wish and realize I was certainly wise beyond my years.

Growing up is tough. And it lasts a lot longer than we ever imagine. We’re always growing up. When you’re really little the high school-aged babysitter is a grown up. In high school the college kids are grown ups. In college those late 20s-early 30-somethings are grown up. It just keeps getting pushed back as we realize that the process of growing up has no end point. It is painful and joyous and hard and wonderful. It is full of goals – realized and missed; accomplishments, failures, love and loss. But most of all it is filled with lessons and knowledge and at some point, the wisdom of “old age.”

Like everyone, I have suffered through all kinds of heartache. The kind that comes from being hurt or betrayed by someone you love and trust. The kind that comes from hurting someone that you love – however well-intentioned your actions or words might be. The kind that comes from separation,  breakups of all kind – your own or those of loved ones; the kind that comes from physical pain, and usually worst of all, that which accompanies death.

The worst of all pain seems to have a life of its own, attacking us in waves when you least expect it. I wonder sometimes if that is our minds pushing it back, holding it at bay, then struggling to work through it, which requires feeling it. Or perhaps it is God giving us small breaks to catch our breath, then washing over us only as much as we can truly handle, even when it feels as though we might drown.  I’m sure I”ll never fully understand the way pain works. But it is something universal. Something we all experience, regardless of the different sources and degrees in which we all experience it.

The funny thing about pain, though, is that it is necessary. It shapes us. It strengthens us, even when in the moment, it feels as though it might break us. We come out stronger on the other side. And it doesn’t seem to matter what kind of pain it is. It could be physical pain, grief from losing a loved one, heartache from the painful end of a relationship. It fortifies us for the next round (and there is always a next round!). It transforms who we are into who we are becoming. I don’t know anyone, myself included, who doesn’t wish, beg, pray, scrape and claw through pain to make it end as quickly as possible. I don’t know anyone who attempts to prolong their own pain. At times, we experience things that seem impossible to overcome. It does not feel as though they will strengthen us, but instead be the end of us. Rarely is this actually the case. And at some point, we realize that today hurts a little less than yesterday. And a lot less than a few weeks ago. We reach a point when we can allow ourselves to think about the source of our pain with less trepidation and more fortitude. We grow – we grow through and because of pain.

I’m in a funny place in my life right now. My migraines are particularly problematic because I’m making my way through a month off of one of my medications whose side effects are so potentially harmful that every six months I have to come off of it for a full month and have CT scans done to ensure no damage has occurred from its use. At the same time I had my heart broken by someone I love very much. While I was completely overwhelmed when hit with these things, I see now that they are necessary. Necessary to keep me healthy, necessary for me to move forward, necessary for me to grow, and perhaps most importantly, necessary for me to get where I’m going and become the person I am meant to be, strong and able enough to do all the things I am destined to do.

In the moments when the physical pain is so severe I can hardly breath, or the waves of heartache that wash over me so overwhelming I think I might crumble beneath it all, it is difficult to stay positive. A few days ago I was angry. I was REALLY angry. But that got me no where. My relationship ended in a way that, in my opinion, did not honor what we had. I wish it could have ended differently, but it had to end. While dealing with this sudden loss I also had an overdue appointment with my neurologist. I drove to my appointment hoping that he would have some way of easing my migraine pain. Instead, he made a change that resulted in this month of increased pain. But this too is necessary. Anger doesn’t lessen what I feel. So once again I find myself grateful. Grateful for things that used to scare me, anger me, confuse me, confound and bewilder me. But even this pain is carrying me forward toward whatever the next big thing in my life might be.

Closing some of these doors allows me to find unexpected openings. I’m transitioning from some tough places/circumstances to a lot of unknowns and some dreams-come-true. Sure, I had my heart broken. But it’s OK. It reminds me that I’m alive. Feeling things so deeply – even heartache, can be inspiring. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve listened to Lady Antebellum sing the words “I’d rather hurt than feel nothing at all” and thought to myself – “not me!” But they’re right. It is strangely life-affirming to feel something so deeply, even if it hurts. It is equally wonderful to know, deep down, that like all else – these feelings are only temporary, and soon the pain will be replaced with joy equal in measure.

I have a confession…I secretly want to be a song writer. The one small problem with that – I have no musical ability what-so-ever! I can’t sing; can’t play any instruments and am pretty much tone-deaf. LOL. I do love to write though, and it’s amazing to imagine someone marrying what falls onto my paper with an amazing melody. I also want to be a successful jeweler, a wildlife rehabilitator and educator. I have lots of dreams. It’s good to have places I want to go, things I want to do. And amazing to be well enough, some days, to make some progress. Perhaps one of the doors that is closing in my life will open up to one of these dreams. When I look at it from that perspective, it is hard to resent the pain. And so much easier to embrace the change, appreciate where I am, wade through the tough days and look longingly forward to all that is to come. So here’s to life, with all of its twists and turns, pain and joy and wondrous possibilities!

Foundation for Healthy Skin

Think you’re doing your skin a favor by skipping the foundation? THINK AGAIN! Dermatologists know that your foundation is not just a part of your cosmetics bag – it’s an essential part of your skin care regimen!

Think about it. You get up, wash your face, use your supplements, moisturizer and apply your makeup. Out the door you go and BAM! You are being bombarded by sunlight, dirt, oil and countless other types of pollution throughout your day. What’s happening to all of that nasty, toxic stuff floating around in air? One of two things…either it’s getting all over your skin and in your pores, OR…it’s getting onto your foundation and being washed down the drain at the end of the day. It’s your choice! But choose wisely; this kind of contamination can do a number on the look, feel and health of your skin.

Your foundation is your daily shield against the nasty stuff in the atmosphere. Our  Mary Kay Mineral Powder FoundationMary Kay Liquid Foundation and Mary Kay Medium Coverage Foundation provide options to suit all skin types and finish preferences.  Check out the unique benefits of each of these products below to determine which one is right for you!

Mineral Powder Foundationmineral powder foundation and brush

  • Blends effortlessly for a flawless look
  • Light-weight powder makes lines, wrinkles and other skin imperfections seem to disappear
  • Provides buildable coverage
  • Controls shine
  • Weightless
  • Long-wearing, transfer-resistant formula won’t fade away by mid-day
  • Provides the coverage of a foundation with the comfort of a powder
  • Gives a natural or matte finish

Luminous-wear Liquid Foundation  luminous wear liquid foundation 2

  • Visibly reduces the appearance of pores, fine lines, wrinkles and skin imperfections
  • A moisturizing complex enriched with skin-loving jojoba delivers long-lasting comfort and hydration
  • Skin looks luminous, radiant and immediately brightened as skin texture appears visibly improved
  • Leaves skin feeling moisturized all day
  • For normal to dry skin
  • 23 skin-perfecting shades
  • Gives skin a long-lasting, luminous finish
  • Color stays true hour after hour
  • Transfer- and humidity-resistant
  • Light-weight formula applies evenly and smoothly

Matte-wear Liquid Foundationmatte wear liquid foundation

  • Visibly reduces the appearance of pores, fine lines, wrinkles and skin imperfections
  • Special microspheres work all day to absorb oil and control shine without a heavy makeup look or feel
  • Gives skin a long-lasting matte finish
  • All day oil and shine control
  • For combination to oily skin
  • 23 skin-perfecting shades
  • Skin instantly looks firmer, younger and healthier
  • Color stays true hour after hour
  • Transfer- and humidity-resistant
  • Light-weight formula applies evenly and smoothly

Medium Coverage Foundationmedium coverage foundation

  • Provides stay-true, stay-put color
  • Helps control oil for at least 8 hours
  • Provides buildable coverage
  • Transfer-resistant
  • Silky-smooth, non-drying formula glides on to even out skin tone
  • Leaves skin feeling moisturized and refreshed all day
  • Helps reduce shine

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The Top Five Skin-Aging Culprits

TimeWiseThink you’re taking great care of your skin? It could probably be a LOT better – most of us are bombarding our bodies with skin-aging culprits without even knowing it! Here’s the lineup of the five worst things you are doing to your skin!

  • Nicotine
  • Caffeine
  • Alcohol
  • Sun
  • Sugar

Men's LineYou should see the look on college students face when I read that list! By age 20 you are losing HALF of the essential vitamins and nutrients that keep your skin young and healthy. (Vitamins A, E, C and antioxidants, to name a few). If you’re not protecting your skin from aging factors like those above, AND replenishing what your skin is naturally losing over time, you’re NOT doing enough!sun care products

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