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Hold On Pain Ends

I learned the most wonderful new acronym recently: Hold On Pain Ends. It’s funny how simple it seems, but how difficult it can be to practice sometimes. I’ve written before about what it means to keep on hoping through desperate or painful or sad times. But this phrase carries a lot of special meaning for me. I recently stumbled across a picture of myself from nine years ago. It stopped me dead in my tracks. I almost didn’t recognize the face staring back at me. Young. Vibrant. Happy. Successful. I wondered how just nine years could age me so much. And here’s the real kicker – that photo was taken at about 1:30 a.m. after working nearly non-stop for three days on a big proposal at my consulting firm. I should have looked ragged and tired and worn. I couldn’t even physically work those hours today, much less look good doing it at 1:30 in the morning the third straight day.

So what was it about that time in my life? I was five years into this migraine ordeal. I was clearly working way too much. But I had held on. At times where there seemed absolutely no reason to believe that my pain would lessen, much less end, that I could find happiness given some of the struggles I was dealing with, reeling from the loss of some of my closest loved ones. I held on. I continued to HOPE. Against reason, against odds. And one day, 6 months prior to that picture being taken, I was put on a new drug protocol by a truly remarkable team of doctors at the Michigan Headpain and Neurological Institute in Ann Arbor, MI. And the pain became less. It strengthened me. It renewed me. When I say I look at that picture and I see success, it is not because I was making a ton of money or even that we won that contract; we lost it in fact. But I was more able than I had been in a very long time. I was able to work for days on end with almost no breaks for sleeping or eating. I was able to sit in that conference room, working through ridiculous amounts of paperwork, barking orders at people three times my senior for their lack of focus and stop to smile pretty for the camera for my new employee photo that just had to be taken at that exact moment because it was the first time I’d been in one place in the office long enough to for the girl from HR to track me down! Tt photo

All that is well and good, but putting things in perspective, there were five years there prior to that moment when one treatment after another DIDN’T work, right? And during that time I dealt with some things I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy, both physically and emotionally. I had learned a hard lesson early on in this migraine thing. HOPE is essential. But so is managing your EXPECTATIONS. If I had continued, as I did in the beginning, to EXPECT each new treatment or medication or procedure, or whatever, to work, I would have lost hope. I have not a doubt in my mind. Learning early on that most things were NOT going to work allowed the treatments that have had positive impacts be more successful, their results more genuine and the overall effects on my pain, my life and ability to maintain hope exponentially greater than if I went into each one expecting it to be “the one.”

When that treatment regimen that I began in July 2005 started working, it hit me out of the blue. The alleviation of my symptoms felt like it fell right out of heaven, knocked me on the head and bounced half the pain right out of there! There was no false positive. No placebo affect. I had approached my treatment for so many years with the “hope for the best, expect the worst” frame of mind that when real, measurable improvement came, it sent me soaring. I couldn’t doubt it. And for a long time after that the quality of my life truly was immeasurably changed. It was that change, in fact, that allowed me to deal with the death of my fiance, by far the most difficult thing I’ve ever experienced. And that series of events, I know, happened in sequence just as it was meant to.

The marrying of those two essential functions – managing expectations and maintaining hope has saved me so many times. But I failed at one of them in an extraordinary way last year. After the last post, Suicide Won’t Fix It, I got a lot of feedback and a lot of tough questions. Some people were shocked. Some were sad, angry, confused. All of this, I expected. But the only explanation I can offer is this – I failed at managing my expectations. When I learned that I was a candidate for the neurostimulator implant surgery, I allowed my doctors to set my expectations at a completely unrealistic level. I envisioned no pain. I saw doors and avenues that have long been shut flinging wide open again! I saw absolutely limitless potential, every possibility available once again. I saw a new life. I saw a new me. After 12 1/2 years of very successfully managing my expectations, I made that one very grave mistake. And I rode the high of those expectations all the way to the moon. And when reality clashed with those expectations, I lost. I fell. HARD. It was the crushing blow that at one time I had been cautious enough to protect myself from, but from which I was at last was feeling the impact. When I came crashing down from that high, I crushed every ounce of hope I had managed to hold on to for nearly 13 years.

It’s one thing to live with chronic pain and to know that even with limitations, there are still some things that work; moments of feeling well, daily success stories. It is quite another to suddenly think you are on the brink of a new life, and to fall crashing back into that seemingly bottomless pit. So I urge you – whatever it is you deal with – migraines, fibro, depression, anxiety – manage your expectations and maintain your hope. It comes in many forms, but one way or another, in small ways or in big ones, if you do Hold On..the Pain does End.

hang in thereThere are some other interesting reasons why this acronym is so close to my heart. And this goes to show that things really do come full circle. When I was in middle school, I was obsessed with horses….mine in particular. Her name was Hope. I didn’t name her that; she came to me that way. And it was perfect. I had several posters in my room at the time. One was a herd of wild horses galloping down a beach. It was magnificent and there was one horse who reminded me so much of my Hope. And directly across from it on my other wall was a very famous poster with a picture of a tiny kitten hanging from a branch with the words “Hang In There.” I remember reading those words so many times over and over during difficult moments. And now, with this fabulous new acronym, those three wonderful things from my childhood – my horse and my two favorite posters are melded into one incredibly powerful phrase…Hold On Pain Ends. Some day I hope to be well enough to run a wildlife rehabilitation center. I have known for many years that if I am able to do it, I will name it New Hope Ranch. This lesson; this phrase; this entire lifetime of experience shows me that it is still the goal I must keep holding onto and keep striving to reach. court and hope

Foundation for Healthy Skin

Think you’re doing your skin a favor by skipping the foundation? THINK AGAIN! Dermatologists know that your foundation is not just a part of your cosmetics bag – it’s an essential part of your skin care regimen!

Think about it. You get up, wash your face, use your supplements, moisturizer and apply your makeup. Out the door you go and BAM! You are being bombarded by sunlight, dirt, oil and countless other types of pollution throughout your day. What’s happening to all of that nasty, toxic stuff floating around in air? One of two things…either it’s getting all over your skin and in your pores, OR…it’s getting onto your foundation and being washed down the drain at the end of the day. It’s your choice! But choose wisely; this kind of contamination can do a number on the look, feel and health of your skin.

Your foundation is your daily shield against the nasty stuff in the atmosphere. Our  Mary Kay Mineral Powder FoundationMary Kay Liquid Foundation and Mary Kay Medium Coverage Foundation provide options to suit all skin types and finish preferences.  Check out the unique benefits of each of these products below to determine which one is right for you!

Mineral Powder Foundationmineral powder foundation and brush

  • Blends effortlessly for a flawless look
  • Light-weight powder makes lines, wrinkles and other skin imperfections seem to disappear
  • Provides buildable coverage
  • Controls shine
  • Weightless
  • Long-wearing, transfer-resistant formula won’t fade away by mid-day
  • Provides the coverage of a foundation with the comfort of a powder
  • Gives a natural or matte finish

Luminous-wear Liquid Foundation  luminous wear liquid foundation 2

  • Visibly reduces the appearance of pores, fine lines, wrinkles and skin imperfections
  • A moisturizing complex enriched with skin-loving jojoba delivers long-lasting comfort and hydration
  • Skin looks luminous, radiant and immediately brightened as skin texture appears visibly improved
  • Leaves skin feeling moisturized all day
  • For normal to dry skin
  • 23 skin-perfecting shades
  • Gives skin a long-lasting, luminous finish
  • Color stays true hour after hour
  • Transfer- and humidity-resistant
  • Light-weight formula applies evenly and smoothly

Matte-wear Liquid Foundationmatte wear liquid foundation

  • Visibly reduces the appearance of pores, fine lines, wrinkles and skin imperfections
  • Special microspheres work all day to absorb oil and control shine without a heavy makeup look or feel
  • Gives skin a long-lasting matte finish
  • All day oil and shine control
  • For combination to oily skin
  • 23 skin-perfecting shades
  • Skin instantly looks firmer, younger and healthier
  • Color stays true hour after hour
  • Transfer- and humidity-resistant
  • Light-weight formula applies evenly and smoothly

Medium Coverage Foundationmedium coverage foundation

  • Provides stay-true, stay-put color
  • Helps control oil for at least 8 hours
  • Provides buildable coverage
  • Transfer-resistant
  • Silky-smooth, non-drying formula glides on to even out skin tone
  • Leaves skin feeling moisturized and refreshed all day
  • Helps reduce shine

mary-kay-foundation-primer-sunscreen-broad-spectrum-spf-15-z1Would you hire someone to paint your home who didn’t first use a primer? NO! Then why would you apply your foundation without our Mary Kay Foundation Primer Sunscreen??? This incredible product helps reduce the appearance of pores, fine lines, wrinkles and other skin imperfections. It extends the wear and enhances the benefits of your foundation. Its patent-pending, oil-free gel formula is mineral-enriched to absorb oil and diffuse light for skin-perfecting balance! It dries FAST to a lightweight, matte finish that can be used with any of our Mary Kay foundations AND provides a layer of broad-spectrum SPF 15 sun protection! Once you put it on, you will be AMAZED at the satiny finish of your skin!

mary-kay-makeup-finishing-spray-z1Want that all day-long, all day strong look and feel? Boost your makeup’s staying power by up to 16 HOURS with Mary Kay Makeup Finishing Spray!

Check out all of these fantastic products and more on My Mary Kay Web site TODAY! Register before July 14, 2013, to get on this quarter’s preferred customer mailing list and get the inside scoop on all of the new fall products before anyone else!  Once you’re there, feel free to send me a message or call with questions or for personalized skin care and cosmetic advice or gift-giving ideas! I can’t WAIT to hear from you!

Interested in becoming a consultant yourself? Call TODAY to open the doors to an AMAZING new life for you and your family!

Choose to have more!

What does your life look like? Are you making ends meet? Slaving away at a job you hate that will never be worthy of who you REALLY ARE? Are you living paycheck to freaking paycheck??? Do you dream of more? Do you dream of having CHOICES? Of being financially FREE? Do you want a life that is NOT AVERAGE but EXCEPTIONAL??? Do you desire flexibility, autonomy and wealth? Do you want to CHANGE THE LIVES OF OTHERS? Do you want to better YOUR life and YOUR FAMILY’S LIFE?


I made a CHOICE to take control of my life, my destiny, my future. I started a Mary Kay business and I will not look back. I chose to let go of my RIDICULOUS judgements and stop TOLERATING mediocrity and average thinking and herd mentality. I CHOSE to be a leader. I chose to BE BOLD. I am a part of a DEBT FREE, MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR company! I lead women. I lead GREAT women. I am led by the GREATEST women.

Prosperity, freedom, leadership, unbelievable relationships…they are ALL POSSIBLE FOR YOU! If YOU are not average…if YOU are willing and READY to make a significant change in YOUR life, contact me. Do it TODAY. Understand that you are reading this because it is a part of YOUR DESTINY to connect with me, to seize this GIFT, to get OUT OF THE PIT and INTO THE PALACE! If you know that deep down inside, you are CINDA-FREAKIN-RELLA…then make a change! Get in touch with me now and CHOOSE to HAVE MORE. You are worth it. You DO deserve it. You just have to make the choice.

Have an amazing, powerful, life-altering day. Do NOT accept less.

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Getting to know the Mary Kay Lady

ImagePink Cadillacs. Silver-white bouffant hair. Long nails. Little or no education and therefore resolved to sell lipstick (how pathetic!). Caked on makeup and a bit of a pushy saleswoman. Cliche and the epitome of anti-women’s lib. Sound familiar? Can you see her? This, sadly, is the image that many hold of what makes up that iconic “Mary Kay Lady.” I’m not exempt from these generalizations. Just a few short months ago – I subscribed to this absurdly innacurate viewpoint.  Image

Doctors, lawyers, teachers, atheletes, students, mothers. Incredibly successful business women. SHARP like you would not believe. Philantropic. Generous beyond words. Women of faith, substance and LEADERSHIP. Women empowering women. These are the people I have come to know as the women of Mary Kay. 

I know all this because I was given two life-changing opportunities approximately 2 months ago. First – I had surgery for my migraines. A procedure that would drastically alter the quality of my life and my ability to live, work, and play independently after 12 1/2 years of debilitating pain. I was also introduced to the Mary Kay opportunity; and because I took it, I, by extension of my business, have the privilege of drastically altering the lives of countless other women every day. 


Mary Kay produces and sells skin care and cosmetics. But that is simply a vehicle for the real work – the business of changing lives. The business of helping women to pursue their dreams, support their families and maximize their potential. Who knew lipstick could be so powerful, right? I started my business less than two months ago. I have 12 women on my team and am about to earn a free car and become a Director. There are no limits to my income potential. No limits on how quickly I can be promoted. No limits on the good I can do. We do not have a glass ceiling in this company! 

How does it work? 

Everyone starts out in the same position. Individuals choose to become leaders and those who have gone before them mentor and encourage progress at every turn. Every consultant is her own boss. She defines her goals, her pace and her success. Some choose to simply sell enough to make extra pocket money. Others decide to take on leadership roles and build their team to make a living. Others choose to be millionaires. Success here is entirely up to every individual. Image

Fifty years ago, one of the most influential businesswomen of all time, Mary Kay Ash, rose up out of retirement and in the midst of personal crisis to start this company with a few of her closest friends. Today Mary Kay Cosmetics is comprised of more than 3 million women, worldwide; has a higher number of women making 100K+ than any other company in the wolrd and is a DEBT-FREE, MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR COMPANY! I dare say she could scarcely have dreamed of what she was starting 50 years ago! 

I have started a whole new life with the doors that have opened to me as a direct result of becoming a Mary Kay beauty consultant. And already I have been able to dramatically change the lives of others. Imagine being able to offer a woman suffering in an abusive relationship a way to get out – to support herself and walk away from her abuser. Imagine seeing the lights come back on in the eyes of a woman who has neglected herself so long that she forgot how to feel good. Imagine the little girl who dares to DREAM BIG and KNOWS she can do anything she sets her mind to because she sees her mom, a powerful, successful, inspiring business owner working daily for the betterment of others. Imagine the joy in a child who gets his mom back from her three minimum wage jobs because she is now her own boss, working a fraction of the time, making exponentially more money. Imagine the soldiers, children, women and families who benefit from the enormous philanthropic initiatives with which Mary Kay beauty consultants are involved. Imagine the husband who can finally cut back his hours (or retire!) and reclaim a bit of work-life balance because of the financial stability of his wife. Imagine the woman who lived a lonely life but is now in the constant presence of empowering, supportive mentors and friends. This is just a taste of what this company does for people. I am thrilled to have been so wrong about who the Mary Kay Lady is. And I am honored to be a part of such an incredible company. 

Do YOU need to make a change in your life? Do you want more time, more flexibility, more freedom, more money, more CHOICES? Are you tired of an either-or life and want to have it all? YOU CAN! And I’d love to show you how…

Check out my Web site; call me; email me. Find out about all the ways that ONE WOMAN CAN make such a difference! 




I am who you made me, so thanks!

This world is wildly unbalanced. So many children grow up with no parents at all. And I not only grew up with two biological parents, but a whole host of pseudo-parents as well. Yes, my parents were divorced, but they were still there, loving and supporting me. And I had all kinds of other parents…my doctor and his wife (my mom’s best friend), my best friend’s parents, my older siblings, my fiance’s parents…I could go on.

I look at this (partial) list of all of these people who have loved and guided me through life at different stages and I cannot help be be overwhelmed by such immense gratitude. But today is Mother’s Day. So I want to say a HUGE HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to all those moms, pseudo-moms, adoptive moms, etc., whether you’re in my life or you just happened to stumble across this post. You are doing something WONDERFUL. But I have a special message for my real mom….

You have empowered me. You have kept me going. You have been there for all the panicked phone calls and cries for help……when I was three years old, and today when I am thirty-three. The issues might have changed, but your love and support never have.

You have made me strong. You taught me over and over that I could do anything I put my mind to, and that nothing in this world was too hard to overcome. You told me over and over that as long as I had my friends and my family, that was all I would ever need to be successful. As it turns out I have had to measure my success differently than most, and all those lessons paid off. Had I not learned them early I fear for where I might be now. Thank you for that wisdom so early on.

You encouraged me to write. I did…and still do! You encouraged my creativity and allowed me to make giant messes just to see what it was I was trying to get to….thank you. You encouraged me to explore, and to follow my heart, no matter where it led…even when that was scary for you because it meant trekking off to the other side of the planet for half the year, or moving to California. The good news is, my heart has always led me home to my family, just as I’m pretty sure you knew it would.

You tried to teach me to cook…sorry about that one. 🙂 I’m getting better…slowly.

You taught me that believing in myself would always be rewarded. What I see now though, is that some of the very best parts of me, are really you, shining out from inside, instilled in me ages ago. You are so much a part of the woman I am today. Thank you for being such an incredible mom. I wish I could be with you today, and closer to you everyday.

Happy Mother’s Day


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